1) Goal: To ensure efficient studying
Wrong Method: Making the student sit at the desk for long hours.
Right Method: Parents should monitor whether the student is working according to a specific plan and schedule. What matters is not the length of time spent at the desk, but how qualitatively and efficiently that time is used. Parents should prepare the necessary physical and psychological environment for the child to study and instill a sense of responsibility. It is much more beneficial to teach a hungry person to fish rather than giving them a fish every day.
2) Goal: To support intensive and regular study
Wrong Method: Constantly saying “Study” to motivate an aimless student.
Right Method: Repeating the same warning constantly creates weariness in the student and can lead to negative attitudes towards the family and conflicts. Instead, the student should be helped to set goals. A student who clarifies their own goals will more easily grasp how they need to study.
3) Goal: To support success in high school, career, and life
Wrong Method: Comparing the child with others. For example: “The neighbor's child got this many correct answers, why can't you?”
Right Method: The paths to success are different for every student. It is not realistic to expect our child to have the exact same study methods or characteristics as a friend. Instead of comparison, statements based on the student's own progress should be used. Remember, every individual is special, and no student likes to be compared with others.
4) Goal: To prevent television addiction
Wrong Method: Asking the student to study while the family is watching television or a match.
Right Method: Parents should not expect from their children what they do not do themselves. If you do not want your child to watch TV during study hours, you should also turn off the television during those hours. Being a role model is much more effective than words. Additionally, the student must have a feasible study schedule.
5) Goal: To create a suitable study environment
Wrong Method: Tolerating distracting elements such as a television, computer, or posters in the study room.
Right Method: The study environment should be arranged to motivate the student. The most efficient place to study is at the student's desk. Lying on the floor or studying in bed quickly disperses attention. The study environment should also be tidy. Clutter leads to mental clutter.